'A Regular Woman': Remembering honor killing victim Hatun Sürücü

"I was an honor killing" and "The bundle under this shroud is me": Through sentences like these, an off-screen voice speaks in the name of Hatun Aynur Sürücü, who was shot by one of her brothers on the street in 2005. 

The film A Regular Woman unsparingly recounts her story.

Born in Berlin in 1982 to Kurdish Sunni parents from Turkey's East Anatolian Erzurum province, Aynur was one of nine children. Her family took her out of school when she was 16, and married her off to a cousin in Turkey.

She left her abusive husband, however, and returned to Berlin, pregnant.

At first, the young, independent and strong woman lived with her family, but in hopes of a self-determined life, she moved with her son to a hostel for single mothers, despite great resistance from her family. The young mother moved on to an apartment, she consulted a therapist, went back to school to finish her degree, took off her headscarf and began an apprenticeship as an electrician.

At the age of 23, almost done with her training and ready to move to Freiburg to continue her education, one of her brothers shot her in the head three times at a Berlin bus stop.

The gruesome murder triggered a heated debate about forced marriages and values in Muslim families in Germany.

'It's about self-determination'

More than a decade after the murder, filmmaker Sherry Hormann decided to revisit the story of Hatun Aynur Sürücü because she found it very moving. "After all these years, it has to be told again, because our society is changing so much, because we are increasingly fencing ourselves in," the director said at the film premiere at Kino International in Berlin. 

Aynur was 23 years old when her youngest brother shot her

At the beginning of the film, the characters speak Turkish only, until one protagonist says, "Oh right, you don't understand us," so they all switch to German. The film is not aimed primarily at a German-speaking audience, however, Hormann said, adding that the matter at hand concerns us all. "It's about self-determination, about women's self-determination, and our self-determination as human beings, too."

Giving Hatun Aynur Sürücü a voice

Documentaries were already made about the case, but testimonies primarily came from the men involved in the story — the killer, the brothers, which is why producer Sandra Maischberger felt it was important to give Aynur a voice. "She fought a battle that many women still lead today," she said. Not all of them face the same dramatic fate, but they share the same battle against male dominance and for self-determination, she added.

Interspersed with footage of the real Aynur, the film is shot documentary-style. In one scene, we see Aynur's father at the mosque, ill and overstrained, while we hear his daughter's favorite music, hip-hop.

The film shows how all family members, including the sisters, heartlessly treat Aynur, who does not want to break with her family. They exclude her from the community.

The film does not cater to stereotypes along the lines of "Western free world against fanatical Muslim world"; it also denounces for instance the legal system through which only the brother that confessed to the crime was sentenced — a juvenile who faced a reduced sentence.

A Regular Woman does not try to delve into the family's psychological or social situation, but focuses on Aynur and what she has to say.

That makes the discrepancy between the dead woman's emotionless voice and her highly emotional story all the more effective.

The moving story of a woman who only wants to live her own life

From the murdered woman's perspective

"The voice-over that tells the story from the perspective of a dead person was a challenge," says Almila Bagriacik, who plays Aynur. "When someone dies, a lot of people have an opinion about what she was like and why she died, but the deceased can't say anything at all."

It was important to her, the actress said, to get the voice-over right, without allowing her own emotions to seep in.

People from migrant families complain that the German media tend to make a big deal of isolated honor murder cases, while similarly violent acts in non-migrant families get little attention because they are regarded as "family tragedies," says Idil Üner, who also plays a role in the film. "Both are equally bad, such things should not happen at all, neither out of jealousy nor based on strange values and life concepts."

"It should not happen, but unfortunately it happens," she said.